BestSelfTherapy.co.uk
In-Person & Online Therapy services | Wirral
Couples Therapy
Are you and your partner feeling distant?
Do misunderstandings seem to grow, leaving you both frustrated?
Are you ...
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stuck in conflict but wanting to stay together?
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finding it hard to move forward if trust has been damaged in some way?
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unsure how to express your needs or navigate the relationship stress?
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sensitive to tone, conflict, or shutdown responses - you talk but you don't feel heard ... and conversations turn into arguments or avoidance?
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having the same fights with no solution in sight ... dropping back into unhelpful patterns of behaviour or point scoring?
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feeling more like room-mates than partners ... passing ships?
♡ Maybe you're craving ..
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calm and curious conversations
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tools to help you feel heard, not just talked at or over
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a safe space where you won't be blamed or judged, but understood and validated.
At Best Self Therapy ... I help couples who feel stuck in cycles of conflict, miscommunication and emotional disconnection to create the clarity, understanding and the safety needed to reconnect and move forward together.
🗒️ It's gentle, evidence-based couples therapy using Emotionally Focused Therapy, the Gottman Method, Solution Focused Brief Therapy and other integrative techniques, tailored to meet your unique needs.
💫 My therapy space is where you can feel comfortable to speak freely and feel fully accepted ... especially if there's any neurodivergence is in the mix.
You'll be supported to explore patterns, express emotions safely, and learn tools that strengthen communication ... one conversation at a time.
It's a supportive space to pause, listen and rebuild the connection you both want.
Things to remember ...
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It’s a safe, neutral place for both partners.
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I certainly don't “pick sides", it's neutral ... you will both get empathy and you will both get challenged when the need arises.
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The goal is for you to understand each other better and build a healthier relationship.
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You work together as a team.
"Love is a practice more than a feeling, it's an action ... it's something you do, not something that just happens to you.
And you need to give - and get - a daily dose to maintain a healthy thriving relationship "
~ Gottman
✨ How does couples counselling work?
Counselling helps couples through guided conversations, skill-building, and learning new relationship habits.
It does this by ...
1. Creating a Safe Space
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Both partners share what’s been going on.
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I help set ground rules for respectful communication.
2. Identifying Patterns
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You both explore what keeps causing conflict or distance.
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I help you see patterns you might not notice ... like how one person shuts down when the other raises their voice.
3. Improving Communication
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You learn tools to express feelings clearly without blaming.
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You also learn how to listen so your partner feels understood.
4. Problem Solving
I guide you through challenges like:
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arguments
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trust issues
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differences in needs or expectations
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stress from parenting, work, or family etc...
5. Building New Habits
You practice healthier ways of connecting:
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apologising sincerely
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setting boundaries
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showing appreciation
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managing disagreements calmly
6. Maintaining Progress
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Over time, the relationship becomes stronger and easier to navigate.
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You decide together when you’re ready to stop or take breaks.
✨ What Couples Counselling can help with?
Improved Communication
- learn effective communication techniques, such as active listening, and the use of I statements, allowing each of you to express your feelings and needs clearly and respectfully.
Conflict Resolution
- identify unhealthy patterns of behaviour and communication that contribute to conflicts, addressing and resolving conflicts in collaboration and leading to more constructive interactions
Enhanced Understanding
- encouraging you both to see things from each other's perspective, fostering empathy and understanding, exploring what deep emotional issues or unmet needs that could be causing friction in the relationship.
Rebuilding Connection
- helping you reconnect on an emotional level, enhancing intimacy and trust. Defining your goals for the relationship and reinforcing your commitment for each other.
Navigating Life Challenges
- supporting you both during transitions ... significant life changes - marriage, parenthood, job loss etc... which can all create stress.
Looking at tools to manage stress and help you adapt to changes together.
Individual Growth
- promoting individual self-awareness, helping you both understand your own behaviours, triggers, and emotional needs. Learning to take responsibility for your own contributions to the relationship, fostering personal growth alongside relationship growth.
🚫 What Couples Counseling Can't Do:
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Force someone to change
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Guarantee a relationship will stay together
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Decide who’s “right” or “wrong”
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Fix problems without effort from both partners
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Replace personal therapy when someone needs individual support
Many healthy couples use counselling to grow stronger.
Talking in a guided way can help prevent future conflict.
Any couple ... new or long-term ... can benefit from couples counselling sessions.
Green Flags
We've all seen the social media posts and articles everywhere ~
'🚩the red flags to look out for in your relationship'
...but what about the green flags - the positive behaviours.
♡ Here are some of the characteristics that define a healthy relationship. > Mutual Respect - Both partners value each other’s opinions, feelings, and boundaries. They treat each other with kindness and honour each other's individuality. > Trust - There is confidence and faith in each other’s honesty and integrity. Trust reduces insecurity and promotes open communication. > Open Communication - Partners can express their thoughts and feelings freely without fear of judgment or retaliation. They listen actively to one another. > Support - Both individuals support each other’s goals, dreams, and aspirations. They encourage each other during challenges and celebrate achievements together. > Equality - Decisions are made together, and both partners have an equal say in the relationship. There is no dominance or control by one partner over the other. > Healthy Boundaries - Each partner respects the other’s personal space, time, and needs. They understand the importance of privacy and independence. > Conflict Resolution - Conflicts are addressed in a constructive manner. Partners can disagree without resorting to insults or threats, and they work together to find solutions. > Affection and Caring - There is a consistent display of affection, both physical and emotional. Partners show care and consideration for each other’s well-being. > Fun and Enjoyment - Both partners enjoy spending time together and share common interests or activities that foster joy and connection. > Adaptability - Partners are willing to grow and adapt together, recognising that change is a part of any relationship. All of these are contributing to a solid foundation for healthy relationships, allowing both of you to thrive both together and individually.
50 minute couples therapy session = £80
Take the first step towards a calmer, more connected relationship ... book your free consultation with me now.
Best Self Therapy : Wirral
with Delyth Cole
Options for Couples Counselling:
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in-person sessions at the therapy room or in your home
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online therapy via zoom
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Or a mix
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plus post therapy check-in sessions available too.
Helping You Be Your Best Self
Couples counselling is a structured, supportive space where partners learn to communicate better, understand each other more deeply, and work through challenges as a team.
It focuses on building connection ... not blame ... and gives couples tools to grow stronger together.
or maybe you've both reached the point of no return, it's over and you're both looking for a healthy split ?
>> please read more here
... with Delyth Cole