1 to 1 Therapy

Individual Therapy on The Wirral and Online across the UK and beyond.

✨ Individual Therapy - Just you & me.

🌿 My therapy approach ...

It’s about having a real conversation with someone who listens, understands, and helps you explore your thoughts, feelings, relationships, experiences and the patterns that might be holding you back.

It's therapy made for you.

Everyone comes to therapy for different reasons, so there isn’t a one-size-fits-all approach.

I use an integrative style of therapy, which simply means we bring together different approaches depending on you — your personality, your experiences, what feels helpful, and what you need right now.

Together we might explore:

understanding your thoughts and emotions
calming your nervous system when life feels overwhelming
making sense of past experiences
building confidence and self-trust
changing patterns that no longer work for you
finding healthier ways to cope
reconnecting with yourself and what matters to you

Sometimes we talk things through.

Sometimes we learn practical tools.

Sometimes we slow things down and understand what’s happening underneath.

We work together — at your pace.

A space to understand yourself, not change who you are

As life can feel like a lot sometimes.

Maybe you’re overthinking everything.

Maybe you feel stuck,

overwhelmed,

disconnected,

anxious,

lost,

or like you’re constantly trying to keep it all together.

Or maybe nothing is “wrong” exactly… but something just doesn’t feel right.

At Best Self Therapy, I offer a warm, down-to-earth space where you can talk openly, feel heard, and start making sense of what’s going on inside — without judgement, pressure, or needing to have all the answers.

🌿 The Three Best Things That Can Happen in Therapy…

People often assume the best outcome of therapy is that anxiety disappears, depression lifts, or painful memories no longer hurt. Those things can happen. But after working as a psychotherapeutic counsellor, I’ve come to believe the most meaningful changes are often quieter. They don’t always look dramatic from the outside, but they can transform a person’s life.

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1. You learn that you don’t have to react to every emotion.

Many people come to therapy believing they feel too much. Too anxious. Too angry. Too overwhelmed. Too sensitive.

Yet emotions are rarely the problem. The real challenge is often how quickly an emotion becomes an action.

An anxious thought becomes avoidance.
A feeling of rejection becomes withdrawal.
Anger becomes an argument.
Shame becomes silence.

One of therapy’s greatest gifts is creating a small but powerful pause between feeling and responding.

In that pause, people begin asking different questions:

“What am I feeling?”

“What is this emotion trying to tell me?”

“What response would actually help?”

The goal isn’t to stop feeling difficult emotions. It’s to realise that emotions provide information … not instructions.

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2. You experience what it feels like to be truly heard.

Many people have spent years talking about their struggles without ever feeling understood.

Instead they hear:

“Look on the bright side.”

“You need to move on.”

“Other people have it worse.”

“Here’s what you should do.”

These responses are usually well intentioned. But they can unintentionally teach someone that their feelings are too much, too inconvenient, or simply wrong. Therapy offers something different. It offers the experience of being listened to without judgement or interruption.

That doesn’t mean every thought is accurate or every behaviour is healthy. It means understanding comes before change. When people feel genuinely heard, they often begin hearing themselves more clearly. They notice patterns. They find words for emotions they have carried for years.

They stop seeing themselves as “too much” and begin recognising they have simply been carrying too much, often without enough support.

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3. Your inner voice becomes kinder.

Perhaps my favourite moment in therapy is hearing someone’s inner dialogue begin to change.

Many people arrive with an internal critic that never takes a day off.

“I should be coping better.”

“I always get things wrong.”

“I’m too needy.”

“I should be over this by now.”

They often believe this harshness keeps them motivated. In reality, chronic self-criticism usually creates shame, fear and exhaustion—not lasting growth. Self-compassion isn’t about avoiding responsibility. It’s about replacing attack with curiosity.

Instead of asking, “What’s wrong with me?”

People begin asking,

“What happened to me?”

“What do I need?”

“What can I learn from this?”

That shift changes everything. When people no longer have to fight themselves every day, they have more energy available to heal, grow and connect with others. Therapy isn’t about becoming a different person. It’s about becoming less trapped by automatic reactions, less alone in your experiences, and less hostile towards yourself.

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For me, those are some of the most rewarding moments to witness as a therapist.

Real change is often quiet. But quiet change can transform a life.

🌿 How Therapy Works ...

If you’ve never been before, therapy can feel like a mystery.

You might wonder

“What am I supposed to say?”
“What if my problems aren’t serious enough?”
“What if I get emotional?”
“What if I don’t even know where to start?”

All of that is completely normal.

Here’s a little of what it actually looks like:

1. It’s a conversation ... not an interrogation

You talk about whatever’s going on in your life ... big things, small things, confusing things, painful things, or even “I don’t know what I’m feeling but something’s off.

There’s no script - No pressure to know what to say - No wrong answers.

You show up as you are, and we explore from there.

2. You don’t have to be 'falling apart' to go to therapy

Therapy isn’t just for crises. It’s for understanding yourself, navigating transitions, building healthier patterns, and figuring out who you’re becoming. It’s support, not a diagnosis of what’s 'wrong.'

3. We go at your pace

You never have to talk about something before you’re ready.

If something feels too big or too vulnerable, we slow down.

If you want to dive deeper, we explore - you’re in control of how the process unfolds.

4. It’s private and judgment-free

Nothing you share is too weird, too messy, or too uncomfortable.

My job isn’t to judge; it’s to understand and support.

Everything you say stays between us.

5. We look at patterns ... not just problems

In therapy, we explore things like:

why certain situations trigger you
what you’ve learned from your family or past
how you talk to yourself
what your relationships feel like
where you feel stuck
what you want your life to look like

It’s less about 'fixing' and more about understanding your inner world.

6. Sometimes we talk. Sometimes we feel. Sometimes we learn tools.

A session might involve:

talking through something that happened
noticing what’s going on in your body
sorting through emotions
exploring beliefs or patterns
learning grounding or coping skills
connecting with your intuition
imagining new ways of being

It’s flexible and collaborative.

7. You don’t have to be 'good' at therapy

There’s no perfect way to do this. You don’t need deep insights.

You don’t need to know your whole life story.

You can show up tired, stressed, confused, or completely unsure.

Therapy meets you wherever you are.

8. Over time, you’ll start to feel the shifts

Not huge overnight changes, but subtle ones:

feeling clearer
reacting differently
understanding yourself better
feeling less alone
making choices that fit who you truly are
trusting yourself more

These shifts build on each other.

9. Therapy is a relationship

One of the most healing parts is simply having someone who:

listens deeply
takes you seriously
remembers your story
shows up consistently
cares that you exist
supports your growth

It’s a space where you can be fully you.

10. You don’t have to do life alone

Therapy is a place to talk about the things you might not say anywhere else.

It’s a place to understand what’s going on inside you.

It’s a place to grow into yourself ... at your pace, in your way.

🌿 You don’t have to figure everything out alone

Sometimes one of the most powerful parts of therapy is having a space where someone really listens.

A space where your experiences matter.

A space where you can say the things you usually keep inside.

A space where you can reconnect with yourself and start creating a life that feels more like yours.

Whenever you’re ready, you’re welcome to reach out.

🌿 How Therapy can help

These are just a few of the issues we can work through,

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🌱 Anxiety

🌱 Stress & Burnout

🌱 Depression

🌱 Self-Esteem

🌱 Grief & Loss

🌱 Life Transitions

🌱 Relationship Difficulties

🌱 Late-Diagnosed or Newly Realised Neurodivergence

🌱 Trauma

Again please know - you really, really don't need to figure everything out before asking for help.

✨Ready to book that consultation?

Best Self Therapy : Wirral

with Delyth Cole

Starting therapy can feel like a big step. If you are unsure where to begin, you are welcome to book a consultation to talk about what you are looking for and ask any questions you may have.

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🌱 Options for Individual Therapy:

Individual 1-2-1 therapy sessions last 50 minutes and cost £60

Sessions are available:

In-Person at the Therapy Room at Wellness, Birkenhead, Wirral
In-Person with a Walk and Talk therapy session at various locations across the Wirral;
Online therapy via Zoom across the UK or further afield.
Telephone call / WhatsApp video call