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The Self-Care Page

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Rule No. 1 :
Be Kind To Yourself

"Healing Begins when you choose to prioritise you!"

Self-Care doesn't need to be perfect or consistent to be meaningful.

Supporting Your Wellbeing

Self-care is often spoken about as something we should all be doing more of.

In reality, caring for ourselves can look very different for each person and may change depending on what is happening in our lives.

 

For some people, self-care might mean rest and quiet reflection. For others it may involve movement, creativity, spending time outdoors, or connecting with supportive people.

 

There is no single “right” way to practise self-care. What matters most is finding approaches that feel supportive and sustainable for you.

Gentle Ways To Support Yourself

Sometimes small changes or simple practices can help support wellbeing. These don't need to be done perfectly or consistently to be meaningful.

 

Some people find it helpful to explore things such as:

 

• spending time outdoors or in nature

• taking moments to pause and breathe

• writing thoughts or reflections in a journal

• engaging in creative activities

• connecting with people who feel safe and supportive

• allowing yourself time to rest.

 

What feels supportive for one person may feel different for another, and that is completely okay.

Self-Care Looks Different For Everyone

Self-care is often presented as a set of activities we should be doing, but in practice it can be much more personal and flexible.

 

For some people it might mean slowing down and resting. For others it may involve setting boundaries, asking for support, or making space for things that bring meaning or enjoyment.

 

Your needs may also change over time, and what feels helpful at one point in life may look different later on.

 

Approaching yourself with curiosity and compassion can sometimes be more helpful than trying to follow strict expectations about what self-care “should” look like.

When Self-Care Feels Difficult

At times, especially during periods of stress, burnout, anxiety or emotional difficulty, even small acts of self-care can feel challenging.

 

During these times it can be helpful to approach yourself with patience and understanding rather than pressure or self-criticism. Give yourself some grace.

 

Sometimes the most supportive step is simply acknowledging that things feel difficult and allowing yourself space to reach out for support.

✨ How Therapy Can Help

While self-care practices can be helpful, they are not always enough on their own.

 

Therapy offers a space where you can explore your experiences more deeply, reflect on what may be affecting your wellbeing, and develop a better understanding of your needs.

 

Together we can explore what support might look like for you and consider approaches that feel realistic and sustainable.

If You Would Like Support

If you are considering therapy, you are welcome to book a consultation so we can talk about what you are looking for and whether working together feels like the right fit.

✨ When Anxiety & Panic Strikes

What could work for you?

For help in the moment with anxiety, panic, intense emotions or overwhelm .... have a try of these helpful tools, maybe one will work for you and help you get out of your head and back into the present moment ...

of course, these resources are not a substitute for therapy but may offer you small ways to support wellbeing.

Butterfly

Hug​

Ground yourself with a soothing butterfly hug.

  • cross your arms and rest each hand on the opposite shoulder blade

  • focus on your breathing, allowing it to be deep and calm.

  • when you start to feel more relaxed tap gently on each shoulder six times, gently like butterfly wings tapping.

  • take a breath and repeat as many times as necessary.

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🦋 ... help yourself be calm and connect with the present moment.

Using your five senses

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A simple technique for grounding yourself when you feel anxiety and panic start to rise up ...

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  • LOOK - name 5 things that you can see around you   

  • FEEL - focus on 4 things that you can feel 

  • LISTEN - name 3 things that you can hear

  • SMELL - notice 2 things that you can smell

  • TASTE - focus on 1 thing you can taste or imagine tasting.​​

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✋ 5 - 4 - 3 - 2 - 1

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Annoying Thoughts

Replace, Don't argue.

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Arguing with irrational thoughts often makes them louder. Instead of feeding them, gently replace them with a grounded alternative.

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Irrational thought - "this is going to go badly"

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Grounded thought - "I don't know how this will go, but I've handled hard things before."

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The goal isn't positivity ... its more about keeping it real.

🥷 ... stop fighting them

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Some Intentional Breathwork : Breathing techniques for Anxiety

Have one of these in your back pocket for when overwhelm strikes ...

Let's move out of 'fight or flight' and into 'rest and digest' mode, help yourself create that much needed mental pause

Box Breathing

  1. inhale 4 -> hold 4 -> exhale 4 -> hold 4

  2. Calms down your nervous system.

  3. helps regulate stress and increase focus

  4. slows the heart rate down, lowers blood pressure and distracts the mind from the anxious thoughts

4-7-8 Breathing

  1. inhale 4 -> hold 7 -> exhale 8

  2. activating the parasympathetic system, the long exhale signals to your body to relax, calming the stress inducing sympathetic system - the 'fight or flight'

Alternate Nostril 

  1. inhale left -> exhale right -> inhale left etc...

  2. a yoga technique that lowers anxiety and clears mental fog

  3. balances the hemispheres in your brain​

  4. can lower blood pressure, heart rate and improve lung function and oxygen flow.

The Sigh

  1. take 2 quick inhales through the nose and follow with a long slow exhale through the mouth

  2. fastest way to lower anxiety in your body

  3. reduces C0â‚‚ buildup and resets your breathing rate

✨ How to find a daily practice for your wellbeing

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Wellbeing isn't a one-size-fits-all. 

 

What relaxes one person can frustrate another. The goal is not to copy trends, it's to discover what genuinely helps you feel calmer, clearer, or more energised.

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  • notice what makes you feel lighter after

  • try something for a short while before judging it

  • keep it simple ... consistency matters more than intensity

  • if you dread it, it's probably not your thing

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Wellbeing works best when it feels supportive, not like another task on your to-do list.

Here are a few ideas ....

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Mind-Quietening Practices :

meditation - breathwork - journalling - gratitude practice

Movement-Based Practices :

yoga - walking or jogging - dancing - stretching routines

Restorative & Comfort Rituals :

evening wind-down routines - reading - herbal tea rituals - taking a bath - colouring

Social & Expressive Wellbeing :

connecting with friends - creative hobbies - spending time outdoors - meaningful conversations

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Blog 1: Creating your own meditation nook - keeping anxiety at bay.

can you make a dedicated space to do your all important 'me time' 

Inspiration

Blog 2: How Journalling Supports Mental Health

how it can help and why, and some prompts to get you started.

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​​"I am grounded in peace, surrounded by love, and guided by spirit.​

In the stillness of my soul,

I hear the whisper of truth.

I walk gently, I give freely,

I receive gratefully.​

May love flow through me, may peace settle within me,

And may my presence bring light to the world."

Best Self Therapy

... with Delyth Cole 

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